The Confident Connected Woman 

Are You a Shut Down "Down There" Kind of Gal?

• You feel shut down “down there”.
• You have lost all interest in sex and have zero libido or sex drive.
• Self pleasure repulses you or you avoid it because you “feel nothing”
• You feel you have to perform or produce a certain result (like orgasm) in sex just to please your partner.
• You fear your partner will leave you if you don’t orgasm or if you don’t give him/her the response you think he/she wants.
• You default into giving as a way to avoid our own feelings of inadequacy and insecurity.
• You have started to start to hate on your body. You avoid looking in the mirror or wearing sexy clothing.
• You avoid sex like the plague and resort instead to chocolate, ice cream or fried chicken.4You develop depression or anxiety.
• You avoid your deeper inner knowing telling you it’s time to change something in your life and maybe even ended up with bad PMS, period pain from the devil, menopausal hell, or other issues with your lady parts.

Don’t Feel Bad—I’ve Been There Too!

Yup. I too was once a shut down “down there” kind of gal.  Just like many women who feel shut down “down there” I could have cared less about it.  And sex was not something I gave two rats bottoms about.

 (Or at least that’s what I told myself….)

But in truth I felt disconnected, depressed, isolated and deeply unfulfilled.  I was often moody and irritable.  I could easily go six months and never once think about having sex with my partner much less actually desire it. 

When it came to sex, my mantra was a frequent combination of:

• “I’m not in the mood”
•  “Not now” 
• Or some version of “Just get it over with”.

But secretly I longed for more…..that “unidentifiable more”……yet I had no idea how to create this “more” that I secretly longed for!

And Then I Found My Way Out

My journey into resolving this issue for myself, fueled by my desire NOT to repeat past frustrations and disappointments, led me to discover a fundamental truth about sex, pleasure, and love:

1.      Nobody "brings" love to us.  Nobody "delivers" an orgasm to us on a platter.  Nobody even "gives" us pleasure (it’s NOT possible and I will teach you why this is during the course!)

2.      Love, pleasure and orgasm are already inherent within us.  Right there within our very own bodies!  All we need to do is learn to create the circumstances within ourselves for these things to naturally arise.

3.      The problem is that we often block access to these things due to many factors that influence us; most notably our social conditioning around sex, the tendency to disconnect from our bodies and it’s emotions, and our utter lack of true education about sex and our femininity in general.

I created the Confident, Connected, Woman Program as a way to guide other women like yourself on the pathway to your own discovery of these fundamental truths.

Because once you understand them and experience them for yourself--you become truly free. 

• Love is no longer so elusive.  
• Sex is not such a mystery. 
• And pleasure and orgasm become ways of life. 

That is exactly what I want to help you do too! 

But you also must understand that we live in a culture that is constantly working in opposition to us.  A culture that wants to make us all feel "dysfunctional". 

As women we shut down “down there” for numerous reasons:

 1.  Social conditioning that tells us it’s not ok to express our sexuality and that tells us we are sluts if we do.

 2.  Sex that falls far short of satisfying for us—it’s all about him and his pleasure or has become rote and routine.

 3.  A misunderstanding of pleasure—what it is and how it works.

4.  A misunderstanding of arousal and desire and how they actually function in a female body. 

 5.  Negative body image and a poor relationship (or no relationship) with our genitals

 6.  We are trapped in overdrive in a state of hyper-vigilance due to the overly masculine society we live in, obsessed with goals and productivity—and this is death to the feminine sexual essence!!

7.  Getting trapped in the toxic feminine patterns of resentment, guilt and self sacrifice.

But it Doesn't Have to Be This Way!

I am here to walk you out of this darkness. To show you a different reality.  One where you understand how your body, your feminine energy, your emotions, your arousal and your sexual desire work.

I'll show you  how to work with your feminine essence instead of against it.

I'll show you How to WAKE UP the parts of you that have been silenced, shut down, and shut off so that you can instead feel more love, connection, arousal, desire and energy in your life and relationship.

I will walk you OUT of the toxic feminine habits that are killing your sex drive and your relationship so that you feel more in control and know exactly what your needs are and how to get them met.

This is exactly WHY I created the Confident, Connected, Woman Program.

Ana's Story

Ana came to me because her partner complained that she was not responding the way “he wanted her to respond during sex”. 

Like many women Ana blamed herself for this apparent “lack of response”.  After completing the program Ana had found a new freedom and confidence in herself as a woman. In Ana's own words:

"I  decided to take this course because I was struggling with my confidence personally and sexually.  My boyfriend had complained several times about my lack of response during sex, and I thought that the course could be a great way to gain another perspective and become more comfortable with myself. 

I started to realize that I had put so much responsibility and pressure on myself which I learned wasn’t entirely true or helpful! I discovered that my sexual happiness and confidence is definitely in my control and I don’t need to take pressure from my boyfriend.

Best of all, I learned to listen to my body and get out of my head and stop the negative self -talk."